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How to Know if Someone Truly Loves You
We aspire to have Hollywood-type relationships, and they don’t exist.
As children, we watched Disney movies. Now, as adults, we enjoy romantic movies, where everything turns out well. And we all know that in life, it’s not like that. Yet, we continue to lose our heads over romantic archetypes that have nothing to do with reality.
We aspire to have Hollywood-type relationships, and they don’t exist. We live permanently dissatisfied with our relationships. We look for in the other what should be born inside us. And consequently, all our relationships fail.
Every time I think of our childhood and youth, I remember this Tyler Durden monologue of the film Fight Club (based on a Chuck Palahniuk novel with the same name.)
“Man, I see in Fight Club the strongest and smartest men who’ve ever lived. I see all this potential, and I see it squandered. G**damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables; slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy s**t we don’t need. We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our great war is a spiritual war. Our great depression is our lives. We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day…
