The same thing happened to me. I thought my family was taking me out of my center. But it was me who didn't know how to listen. I started to meditate, I stopped smoking and drinking and over time my reactivity was decreasing (it took years). Another thing that I realized is that I argued a lot at meals, and I thought it was because I hate arguing eating, but really it was because hunger makes me grumpy. Realizing this, I discovered that it happens to me in the morning too. This helped me control myself. I hope some of this helps you.