I was born in 1981, and since then, amazing things have happened. The world has changed so much.
In the ’80s, we needed to pick people up at a specific time at a specific place and trust that they would show up. Now anyone can locate us if we send them our location.
They say that the Smartphones we use today have more technology than NASA used to go to the moon in 1969, and it is true.
In the ’80s, the world seemed big than now. Places like India or Japan seemed just as exotic as Mars.
Your friends were from your hometown. Today we can meet people from practically any country: Argentina, Spain, Canada, Australia, and so on.
Before, we could only learn face-to-face in libraries and schools. Today we can access millions of online courses, interact with teachers from different cultures in real-time.
Technology has changed everything.
Thanks to the internet, I shared talks with Buddhist monks and Reiki gurus. I learned Yoga with great teachers, I had the opportunity to interview several neuroscientists and philosophers. And the funny thing is that when they talk about happiness, abundance, and spirituality, they all agree on several key points.
That’s why in today’s article I want to share those points with you. And for that, I have synthesized them in a manual that will help increase your prosperity, happiness, and spiritual wealth.
Let’s jump in.
I. Don’t compare yourself
“Comparison is the killer of happiness.”
— Matthieu Ricard.
Buddhist wisdom shows you that the true path to fulfillment is to eliminate suffering. But what causes suffering?
According to Buddhists, the cause of suffering is desire. This thought is shared by many mystics. St. Francis of Assisi said, “I desire little, and what I desire, I desire little.”
If we understand that desire is one of the causes of suffering. We realize that comparing is bad for our happiness. From comparison is born dissatisfaction and insecurity, and from them is born compulsive desires.
What science says
Instead of comparing, use compassion. Compassion makes you put yourself in the shoes of others and develop empathy.
Professor Richard Davidson conducted a study at the University of Wisconsin on meditation. In that study, Matthieu Ricard was hooked up to 256 sensors that showed that his brain produced a level of gamma waves never before reported.
He was also found to have high activity in the left prefrontal cortex implying a high capacity for happiness and a reduced propensity for negativity.
The study led Matthieu Ricard to be considered the happiest man in the world. Listen to him, don’t compare yourself, and cultivate compassion.
II. Spend time with your friends
For me, friendship is not an advantageous transaction or give-and-take. For me, friendship is a certain overlapping of life; A relationship that can touch another life profoundly.
Friends are those brothers from another mother who share with us their joys and sorrows. A good friend is always there when you need him. A good friend listens to you and advises you. A good friend is a treasure to be preserved.
For me, all healthy friendships are governed by the same law.
The universal law of friendship
When you have a friend…
Rejoice when he goes well.
Help him at bad times.
Because if you do that, despite time and distance,
that friendship will endure.
All spiritual masters agree on the importance of friendship. They know that interpersonal relationships are a source of abundance and joy.
What science says
A review of 148 studies concluded that people who lack social relationships are 50% more likely to die than people who have healthy relationships.
Being social seems to be just as important as eating a good diet or exercising. Having friendships makes us live longer, be happier and enjoy life more.
III. Be grateful for what you have
“Peace begins with a smile.”
— Mother Teresa.
Gratitude is energy. When you accept things as they are and smile. And are grateful for all that life offers you: you are happy. That feeling warms you up inside and makes you vibrate.
Gratitude is born from acceptance; From valuing and being grateful for things before losing them.
Think about it. I’m sure you’ve been asked for help at some time. And some would appreciate it and others would not.
Which people would you be willing to help again?
It is the same with life. In Matthew 13:12, we read
“To everyone who has, more will be given, and he will have an abundance; but from anyone who does not have, even what he has will be taken away.” And it is true.
Be thankful, and more will be given to you. Be ungrateful and you will end up losing what little you have.
What science says
Many studies over the past decade have found that people who consciously count their blessings tend to be happier and less depressed.
Recently a randomized controlled trial was conducted to test a complementary gratitude writing intervention for psychotherapy clients. The conclusion was that participants who wrote about gratitude had significantly better mental health than the rest of the participants.
So if you want to abound: be grateful.
IV. Don’t be burdened by what you don’t have
Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I’m not sure about the former.
As we have seen in the previous point: gratitude generates abundance. Nevertheless, negative thoughts weaken you.
As Albert said, the universe is infinite. Infinity cannot be scarce. Scarcity is finite.
Imagination is amazing. Everything that science fiction has imagined scientists have gradually made real. We have quantum computers, probes traveling through space, and atom accelerators.
All spiritual masters agree that you only can manifests in the world of matter what is in your spiritual world. And if your Mindset is one of scarcity, scarcity will materialize in your life.
What science says
Studies affirm that negativity is contagious. The Framingham Heart Study project based on thousands of people in Massachusetts found that feelings such as loneliness, negativity, or happiness can be contagious.
The problem with negativity is that it develops stress, anger, and distress, among others.
Anger will raise your blood pressure and worsen your circulation. Research also shows that an episode of anger is so stressful that it compromises your immune system for more than six hours.
All of these problems can lead to more problems like heart attacks and strokes.
If you want to be abundant, don’t be negative and stay away from negative people. Emotions are powerful, and they are contagious.
V. Learn to share
“If citizens practiced friendship among themselves, they would not need justice.”
Society is defined as a group of people who relate to each other according to rules. People who share the same culture or civilization in a given space or time.
The key is the word sharing. Today’s societies make it possible for us to have a higher quality of life and live longer. This is possible thanks to the social pact and the consumer society, where products and services that benefit the individuals are exchanged.
All the wise men of antiquity know that we need each other.
Aristotle said, “the man who is not capable of living in society, or who has no need, because he is sufficient unto himself, must be a beast or a god.” And what he meant was that we need each other. Whether we like it or not, that’s the way it is.
No matter if you want to work in finances or a team of a startup in Silicon Valley, what companies value most when deciding whether to hire one person is Soft Skills. In particular, these ten.
The 10 ‘soft skills’ most in demand by companies
- 1. Resilience.
- 2. Flexibility.
- 3. Critical thinking.
- 4. Commitment.
- 5. Teamwork.
- 6. Growth mindset.
- 7. Constant and independent learning.
- 8. Creativity.
- 9. Data-driven decision-making.
- 10. Digital skills.
As you can see, most of them are collaborative. And those that are individualistic are based on adding efficiency to the company or the work team.
If you want to be more abundant, you will have to learn to share.
You are not alone in this world. We all depend on each other. The only way to progress in this society (at least legally) is to provide products and services that meet others’ needs.
And that is sharing.
What the science says
Research by Trinity College Dublin has investigated the evolution of human intelligence and the increase in brain size. The study concluded that these factors can be enhanced by cooperation and teamwork.
Now, you know, if you want to be smart and live better, learn to share and collaborate.
VI. Love yourself more
“No one who trusts himself envies the virtue of the other.”
Much is said about self-esteem. But I want to approach it from a different point of view. Let me give you an example.
Imagine that you and I are in a swimming pool and just at that moment you ask me for money. I don’t have any money, and I have to get out of the pool to give it to you. Truth?
It’s the same with self-esteem. You can’t give what you don’t have. Without self-esteem, you don’t respect yourself. Without self-esteem, you don’t value yourself. Without self-esteem, you don’t love yourself. So, how are you going to be happy?
You can’t be happy without self-esteem, and you can’t make anyone happy, because as we have seen before, you can’t give what you don’t have, first you have to go looking for it. And there is only one place where you will find it: within you.
Your inner self is the central theme of all spiritual masters. All abundance is born from you. Human beings create things, but first, we have to imagine them. And that happens in your mind, within you.
Love yourself more, and you will abound.
What science says
A research study in Vietnamese Secondary School Students showed that self-esteem is associated with anxiety, depression, and academic stress. Which significantly affects students’ quality of life and is linked to suicidal ideation.
If you don’t love yourself, you will not abound. If you don’t love yourself, who will love you?
Loving yourself is the best investment you can make.
VII. Live here and now
“There’s much more in any given moment than we usually perceive, and that we are much more than we usually perceive. When you know that, part of you can stand outside the drama of your life.”
— Ram Dass.
Pain dwells in memories or desires: memories are in your past.
The desires are in your future. That is why you suffer.
You live in the present wanting to live in the past or in the future.
How can you not suffer?
If you want to be happy, you have to learn to live in the present. The present is the only place where you are manifesting itself.
Does it make sense?
When you want something or miss something, you want to have it, but that something is in the past or in the future, so you can never get it. That is why you suffer.
Understanding this is very important. When you manage to live in the present consciously, the 3 great truths of spirituality are revealed to you.
The 3 great truths of spirituality
- 1 Every good thing has a bad thing in it and vice versa.
There are no good or bad decisions, only different ones. Everything you do has negative and positive consequences. Everything.
This is a difficult thing to understand. You spend your time trying to optimize it, making the best decisions. But you never know if you have made the right one because there are no one hundred percent right decisions.
I’ll give you an example: it’s like in that Nicolas Cage movie “Family Man.” Cage plays Jack Campbell, a self-centered Wall Street broker obsessed with work and luxury.
However, after trying to prevent a Christmas Day store robbery, he wakes up in a parallel world as a lowly tire salesman. He also has two children running around the house and is married to an old girlfriend.
Instead of splitting up with his girlfriend to pursue a great job opportunity, the story tells what would have happened if he had stayed by her side.
If he had done so, he would never have been a millionaire. But he would have had a family and been infinitely happier.
- 2 Detachment makes you unhappy because what you own possesses you.
The world of the material seduces us, but if you stop to think calmly, you realize that having five houses gives you more problems than having one. Having a collection of cars makes your life much more complicated than owning one.
Possessions take away an unimaginable amount of time and freedom as we yearn to conserve them
The problem is that on top of that, in this life, everything is transitory.
You can’t hold on to anything, not even your own life. That’s why you grow old. One day you will die, and you won’t even keep your body.
That’s why attaching yourself to people, situations, or material goods makes no sense. Don’t do it will make you suffer.
When you live present, you learn to accept things as they come. To face loss with sportsmanship.
- 3. Ego is ruining your life.
Ego is a disguise we use. But the ego is not who we really are.
The problem is that the ego always wants something. And that makes you live outside the present moment. That’s why you don’t realize it. That’s why you won’t know yourself until you can live in the present moment and take off the mask of the ego to discover who you really are.
What science says
Harvard researchers show mindfulness may change the brain in depressed patients.
The goal of mindfulness is to achieve a deep state of consciousness free of judgments about our sensations, feelings, or thoughts, paying attention to what is happening inside us at every moment.
In other words, to live without judgment, with intention and attention focused on the present.
List of benefits of practicing Mindfulness
- Reduces stress and anxiety.
- Increases an overall sense of well-being
- Increases concentration, attention, and the ability to work under pressure.
- Increases the speed at which our brain processes information.
- Can improve the immune system.
- Increases your emotional stability.
- Slows cellular aging.
- Improves pain tolerance.
- Helps slow age-related cognitive decline.
If the benefits of Mindfulness and meditation could be put into a pill, it would be the most expensive medicine in the world.
Live in the present, and you will abound.
- I. Don’t compare yourself.
- II. Spend time with your friends.
- III. Be grateful for what you have.
- IV. Don’t be burdened by what you don’t have.
- V. Learn to share.
- VI. Love yourself more.
- VII. Live here and now.
If you have read to the end of the article, I want to thank you for your support. I hope this article has helped you. If so, let me know in the comments. I really appreciate it.
Thanks for reading.
Alberto García (Malafama1981).
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